Haha, look how sunburnt in the face we were!
It's hard to dish advice in regards to relationships because for one thing, everyone is different, which means every relationship is different. Dynamics that work for one couple most definitely won't work for another. Nobody is perfect, and instead of envying another couple, focus on your significant other.
PN and I have been together for quite some time now, which means we've had 23904823975 fights and have made up 2893782375 times. To get some insight in to what guys are thinking, I asked him to list three annoying things that I do (don't worry, I didn't get mad haha).
1. You take too long to get ready/You change your outfit too many times.
Guilty as charged. Sometimes I'm pretty good about getting ready, especially if I woke up late. Other times, I'll sit and stare at my closet for probably 20 minutes, and still have no clue what to wear. Even worse is that I've changed my mind about what to wear 4 times in one night. My reasoning? I like to look good (I know all you ladies out there are nodding your head right now). It doesn't matter if we're just watching a movie or going out to a casual dinner with some friends, I like to have my shit on POINT! Isn't it worth waiting 30 minutes to have some serious arm candy when you're out and about? I think all couples should put some effort into the way they look, no matter how long they have been dating. It shows that you still care about the other person enough to try to dress and impress. The day I wear sweatpants to a movie with PN is the day I stop caring, period.
2. YOU'RE NEVER WRONG.
Nobody likes to wrong, but 99% of the time, somebody is. I'm quite stubborn, and I'd rather pluck my eye lashes then admit I'm wrong. I'll admit that I don't say 'sorry' as often as I should, but I'm working on that. In an argument, you ALWAYS think you're right and the other person is wrong, that's natural. The best way to get past an argument is to take a deep breath, hear the other person out, and compromise. You don't get your way in life 100% of the time, so why should you expect that in a relationship?
3. You're always on my ass/You nag. A LOT.
This is a common complaint in most relationships. PN and I are completely divided on this one, but that's life. PN is very laid back, and I can be really anal about some things (toilet seat, AHEM). He thinks that I nag/worry/stress waaaaay too much, and I think the reason I nag so much is because he's lazy and won't get up off his butt. This doesn't have to be a relationship-killer, though. I've learned to mellow out a bit, and he's learned to just do things the first time I ask (haha). Like I said, nobody is perfect. Most women nag, and most men are lazy. It's nothing new, and is an expected part of the relationship. It takes hard work to be accepting.
Some days, I want lie in bed with PN all day and talk about our future. Other days I want to clobber him with a 2x4. It's all about finding a balance, and I feel like we complement each other quite well. Put in the effort, and your significant other will reciprocate. Laziness is a relationship killer. Nobody should have to put up with a (wo)man who's too lazy to make plans, too lazy to go out, too lazy to do anything. If they're not willing to try, why should you? Know your worth.
Fight hard, love hard.
All photos are from our recent trip to Punta Cana, Dominican Republic.